Is your conversation with your "Physical Self" appropriate for polite company?

or.. 

What the @#$& are you saying?

I just have a quick question for you. What kind of conversation are you having with your physical self throughout the day? If you're anything like me that conversation might not be appropriate for polite company. Well at least it used to be that way.

One day I had a weird thought. I looked down at what I was then referring to as my body and asked, "what is this thing anyway". My first weird thought was followed by a second weird thought. What if this thing I'm calling my body     were an entity all on its own. Like a pet….

I know it sounds super strange, but it occurred to me that if this thing were anything outside of myself, literally anything at all, I would never be                                                                                     speaking to it this way! 

In fact, I realized that I don't think I would speak to even an inanimate object that way. In the moment the thought both horrified and made me laugh. I imagined myself talking to a vase with the disdain, dislike, and downright trash talk I used when talking to my physical self.

You see the thing is that, I consider myself a nice person. I try to be kind, considerate, and loving to all things. Especially those I know have feelings, needs and wants. Well, I certainly hadn't been any of those things to my physical self. The truth is I've been cruel, unkind and let's face it abusive. I laughed again when I realized that if someone asked my body to describe me, it would probably say "She's a real bitch!"

This one strange thought started me on a whole new adventure. The adventure began with addressing my body in a completely different way. I also began to see my physical self as an entity unto itself with needs and wants, likes and dislikes of its own. We all sort of know this to be true. We talk about what our body wants or craves. We often talk about our body doing what it wants and not at all what we want. So it's not such a foreign idea.

I started this new adventure with my physical self by wondering how to begin addressing her in a more respectful way. I began by saying her not it. Then I asked if she had a name.....

But that is a story for another day.... 

So I return to my original question, is the conversation you are having with your body appropriate for polite company? And are the things you are saying the kind of language and sentiment you generally use with other people, animals, inanimate objects? 

If not I invite you to take the day to simply notice the conversation that you're having with your physical self.

1. Notice how you refer to your physical self. When you speak to her directly do you use the term        you, I, we, my? You're not looking for right or wrong here just noticing.

2. Notice how often the conversation is less of a conversation and more of a negotiation, argument,    knockdown drag out, or tender interaction.

3. Notice your connection with your physical self. Do you feel separate, connected, imprisoned,      maybe locked in a cell with your worst enemy, or in harmony?

4. Notice if what you say specifically to your physical self causes any sensation in the physical.
  Notice if the body tenses or relaxes,has pain or lack of pain, has a sense of heaviness or lightness in     response to your inner dialogue.

 5. Try one time during the day having a conversation with your physical self that feels more like    talking to a new acquaintance. Use polite language as you might to a person that you do not know  well but that you want to feel acknowledged and respected.

One word of caution these simple exercises might begin the internal adventure of a lifetime!

Liz Larson
transformoneidea@gmail.com

Life Design Strategist
NLP Master Practitioner

Are you Super Human? Can You Be? ----What's Possible for you?

Today I was watching, Stan Lee's Super Humans. The show is not so much comic book as it is science oriented. The host of the show Daniel Browning Smith travels around the world investigating people that have a natural "Super- human" ability. On the show, Daniel was investigating a man who's body never seemed to fatigue. He once ran 50 Marathons in 50 days. His muscles don't build up lactic acid like normal humans. His lungs and heart don't seem to get tired. In fact where even the most elite athletes have muscle fatigue and breakdown during extreme exercise, this man seems to get stronger and faster!The host of the show states, "It goes against everything we know about human biology". His lactic levels seem to go down while normal humans increase during exercise. The doctors and scientists that examined him declared him truly Super Human!

It made me think about what Super Human means. Essentially it just means outside what we think is normal. Stan Lee's investigation into people who have outside of the normal ability highlights this idea. There are people all over the world that can do things we deem amazing! But what if we shifted this idea. What if we looked at these people for what they really are. They are an example of what is possible! Currently we look at them as outside the norm and disregard the fact that they are in fact human and therefore what they can do and what they are is then possible for humans.

Remember when the 4 minute mile was considered impossible? As soon as Roger Bannister broke the 4 minute mile in 1954 many athletes quickly followed and beat this barrier. Roger Bannister wasn't Super Human he simply allowed other athletes to know what was possible.

Another example is our understanding of the brain. Science used to believe that the brain could not regenerate. That once brain cells were dead or damaged that the brain would permanently remain impaired. Thanks to the research being done at the University of California, San Diego, we are breaking these and many other myths about the brain's ability to heal and regenerate. "The brain that changes itself", by Norman Doidge demonstrates study after study of people recovering their brain function after devastating injury and illness. What's the switch? Simply that we know it's possible, and if it's possible we can take it to higher and higher levels.

So how can we "average" humans use this information? What if we just started challenging what we believe. I was recently on a coaching call when I was describing a limitation I have with my health. As the words exited my mouth I realized that this particular limitation might be not a real limitation  but a belief. My first thought was "OH CRAP"! Then I wondered, what if I could change my belief about this limitation? Could I  also change this aspect of my health? If that were true, in what other ways could I be limiting myself ?I decided that I would do an experiment and challenge the excuses that I make to myself about why I can or can't do things. About what is possible and what is not. So far it's been amazing and honestly a little aggravating....... Could it be that I just simply didn't know what was actually possible and what was not?

So I put this challenge to you. Can you challenge your excuses this week? Here's how. As soon as you hear yourself give a reason for why you can't accomplish something, stop. First change the language of the excuse. Begin with, "I have a belief that I can't"..... Instead of "I can't because". Next ask yourself this question, "What if I could change that belief".  Next change it one more time to, " What could I replace that belief with."  Then ask this, "What else would change if I changed that one belief".

Be aware that you might find this Super irritating at first :) I did! I didn't like the idea that I was limiting myself. I really wanted my problems to be someone or something else's fault! Realizing that I have the Super Human ability to un-limit myself is both irritating and freeing. Now I find it really fun to experiment with the idea. I'm not sure that I can change every perceived limitation, but I am excited to investigate.

Try this for a week and then post your findings here. I can't wait to hear what your experience is!


Liz Larson
transformoneidea@gmail.com

Life Design Strategist
NLP Master Practitioner

What Are You Doing Right, Right Now?

Do you ever find yourself day dreaming? What do you day dream about? The big stuff? Getting that book written, starting your own business, starting your dream career?  What about the fun stuff, the big vacation or family trip, that second home on an exotic island? What ever your day dream is it's sure to have you smiling while you picture yourself there and in it! However, as you return to where you are now, today, do you find yourself feeling a little let down even stuck?

It's often this way. If we could just get to that utopia of our day dream, our lives would be so much better.It seems to magnify the crappyness of our current circumstances. Getting from here to there can seem impossible or just so far away. What if we are closer than we think? What if we could feel great about where we are now as well?

As I have shared before I am a (recovering) self appointed Queen of Frustration. I have had the experience of being frustrated 3 seconds after I have a great new idea. Why? Because I didn't have the idea 2 weeks ago of course! If I had, how far ahead would I be now?! I think you see my point. However I had an experience that changed how I think about this and actually changed the course of my life. 

I had been teaching Cake Decorating on You Tube, where I had over 75 million views. I walked into a Cake Decorating supply store in Los Angeles and was recognized by the owner. This was a strange experience for me, even though so many people around the world had seen me I had never been recognized in public. The young woman looked tired and a bit worn. I recognized the look of overwhelm and exhaustion that so many small business owners have. Been there done that! She began to ask a few questions about YouTube and how it works. She commented on how nice it must be to be working in the media I was most passionate about. Before I knew it I blurted out,"Cake Decorating is not my passion! It's a skill that I happen to be well trained in and I'm good at, but I don't love it."  Her face went a little white. But what flowed out of my mouth next had to be a message from my own soul. "My real passion is inspiring and teaching people to reach their highest potential." I went on to explain that what I truly love about this work is the emails from around the world. The stories of people who have changed their lives by starting a new store front Cake Business as well as business's in their homes. The people who never dreamed that they could decorate anything and after finding my channel were able to decorate their child's Wedding Cake. I even had a woman tell me that she and her daughter were shut-ins suffering with Agoraphobia and Anxiety and couldn't leave the house. In the middle of the night they started watching videos and were inspired to start decorating and were in the process of starting a home business. I was shocked to see email after email telling me that I had inspired them and helped them succeed.

As I wove through the stories that inspired me, my spirit soared. I could see the store owner's weariness fade as well and that the glow in my being was being transferred to her. Her smile grew and as my story came to a close she commented, " Wow, you that's a great story, you should be an inspirational speaker". Little did she know, that was my true passion.

Until that moment I hadn't realized that I was  already doing what I wanted to do! The subject matter wasn't what I had thought it would be, but I was already helping people, by inspiring them to try something new and to go for their dreams. I began to see that where I am right now is important! Wow what a breakthrough ! I didn't need to be frustrated, because in many ways I was already living out my "dream". I began to break it down to try to figure out how this happened. How could it be possible? What were the components. They boiled down to this:

 1. I showed up with integrity, I offered the best I had to my audience with each video.
 2. I showed up as who I am, I didn't try to be someone I'm not to gain viewers.
 3. I truly cared about the people I was speaking with.
 4. I taught what I knew.

I know now that this is a formula for both creating our dreams and being satisfied with where we are right now.

I encourage you to try this on for yourself. Ask yourself these four questions.

1. Where do I show up with integrity in my life now and offer the very best that I have?
2. Where do I show up as my authentic self as I truly am?
3. Where in my life now do I care deeply about the people I serve, assist, teach or help?
4. Where do I use my wisdom and knowledge at it's highest level?

If some of these questions draw a blank at first shift them to a "Where can I" question. For example:
Where can I show up with integrity in my life. Begin to mine your current life for the gold that is just below the surface.  You will be surprised how quickly your mind will  find the areas of your life in which you are already living your "dreams" or on a sure trajectory for living your very best life.

We all have moments of greatness each day! Recognizing them makes each day a little sweeter. And as the saying goes what we focus on expands.Why not focus on how great we are doing right now and experience a little taste of that Utopia today!

Liz Larson
transformoneidea@gmail.com

Life Design Strategist
NLP Master Practitioner