Should You Toot Your Own Horn?

Today I was talking to a good friend about the process I posted a few days ago , "Take Your Mind On A Treasure Hunt". I was explaining how fun it is to  look back on your own past and find the little gems that supported you, built you, and made you so powerful today. We each have skills, things we excel at and things that are going right. I gave her the example that I shared in the video of the same name, all the little experiences that gave me the willingness and ability to speak and teach publicly.

Then she asked an intriguing question, "Isn't that kind of like Tooting Your Own Horn?" As we chatted she understood quickly that , "tooting your own horn" isn't what this fun little process is about at all, but the question lingered in my mind for the rest of the day.

Two things struck me as I considered the idea. The first is that it is not generally socially acceptable to acknowledge positive aspects about ourselves,"tooting or own horn", but it is perfectly acceptable to share traumatic or problematic stories about ourselves. That's not considered "tooting our own horns" however I have heard people "one up" each other with trauma stories.

The second is that it may not even be socially acceptable to "toot your own horn" in the privacy of your own mind! This my friends must stop now!

The question now is how? How do we begin? The first step is to simply begin shifting our ideas about sharing what's going right with each other and with ourselves. Begin by asking your group of friends, "what are the experiences you had that make you so good at what you do". Encourage each other to share little, yet powerful, stories about how they learned to be successful, kind, caring, loving, or awesome! This is a new muscle that needs to be flexed and worked. If you have kids, you can practice with them. Kids will always share why they are so awesome, and then model their attitudes. It's not about bragging or boasting, but acknowledging that some great things have to have happened to build you into the person you are now. Gathering them together and bringing them forward into the futures we are creating, helps us know for sure that we have a solid foundation and that we are already on the way to having the life we want. It's like packing a suitcase full of all of the things we will need on the journey to come. It's also just a great way to feel good NOW!

Appreciating ourselves and our experiences has an amazing way of spurring new ideas and new ways of using the things that have served us in the past. It helps us recognize tools we forgot we had. It truly is a treasure hunt in our own minds, but it can also create a wealth of fun, uplifting conversations!

It's time to delete the idea that we can't ,"toot our own horns" just a little! It's an out dated idea and we my friends are far too progressive to perpetuate old outdated ideas!
So I say start Tootin'! First in your own mind, then out loud, and while you're at it toot someone else's horn too!

Liz Larson
transformoneidea@gmail.com

Life Design Strategist
NLP Master Practitioner

Treasure Hunt

Take your Mind on a treasure hunt

Have you ever felt stuck? Wanting to move forward, create change, or achieve a dream but can’t seem to get out of your own way?

 In these moments everything seems overwhelming, too big and impossible. If you just had one good idea or even just a little help you could break free of your funk!

 What if all the resources you need were in the backyard of your own mind! Would you be up for a little backyard mining expedition?

What better than to be able to go inside and find all of the things we need to create a forward movement. After all, isn’t forward movement what we’re looking for? Momentum? We can’t feel stuck when we are moving forward. Anything we can do to get moving in the direction of our desires feels like relief! Relief is a good thing!

So here is the premise, throughout our lives we each have positive influences and experiences that have shaped us into the people we are today. We often talk about the negative things that  influenced us, but not the positive. Here’s your chance to remember what shaped your confidence, your awareness, your brilliance!

I recently had the chance to go down this positive memory lane. I saw a woman at a distance in the line at the grocery store.  I recalled, when I was about 13 she owned a sort of salon. She was putting on fashion shows with the unique clothing she carried. She asked my Mom if I could attend her modeling school and be in her Fashion Shows. It was an amazing experience for me!

 As I thought back on her and the opportunity she gave me, I realized how it had shaped me in a positive way. It taught me poise and was a great confidence booster for an awkward  teen. This thought sent my mind on a treasure hunt of my past.

 I thought about the Kindergarten teacher that asked me to sing for the class when I forgot my show and tell item, the Music Director that asked me to sing for a Spring Show in the 1st grade, dance recitals and a debate coach, being the MC for Fashion Shows I organized in High School, Swing Choir and the list goes on and on.

Every experience taught me what I needed to know to be right here right now willing to talk to Millions on You Tube or a room of 1000’s live.

This brief trip into the Gold Mine in my own mind taught me that I can find support for new ideas and desires within myself. What a way to feel great about myself and my abilities any time I want! It’s also a great way to have gratitude for the many, many people that supported and taught me along the way.  I simply need to search my memories for the resources that are just waiting to be rediscovered.

So take yourself on a Treasure Hunt in your mind Today ! Here’s how to start:

1.     Think about a new project, desire, or idea that you want to move toward.

2.     Consider what resources you might need, like confidence, the ability to learn something new, a

particular skill  or knowledge…….etc.

3.     Pick one resource for a place to start and begin mining your memory for a time when you had just this resource.

4.     Use this as a launching pad and then begin to connect the dots, directing your mind to find others that match up. Start at the earliest age you can remember and move toward the present. Gather up even the smallest of positive lessons and experiences that support your new goal.

5.     Feel great about yourself and your new endeavor!
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Liz Larson

transformoneidea@gmail.com

Life Design Strategist

NLP Master Practitioner

An Old Promise- A message from the universe.

Have you ever met someone, even in passing, who impacted you greatly? Without that meeting you might have missed your calling or taken another path? Sometimes you feel like you've known them forever and it's only been 30 seconds and sometimes you never see them again. Have you ever helped someone or known exactly what to say in the right moment? I think this little poem explains it all..............



I Promised a million years ago or it might have been yesterday or maybe in a dream, that I would be here Today, on This Hour, in This Moment to remind you of who you Really Are.

You said that you might get wrapped up, distracted or forget entirely why you came, what you wanted to do, or who you meant to be.  You said that you might need a reminder, a clue, or someone to shout for you to get back on your path. 

I Promised I would be here, on This Day, in This Hour, at
This Moment.

You began to worry, if I am lost, or turned around, or in great despair or if I am in Love or chasing a Dream, or Jumping from a Plane how will I know you?

I smiled knowingly and began, I will be the "right turn only" sign when you've asked "which way". I will be the song on the radio crooning "turn around" in your moment of confusion. I will be the phone call of a long lost Friend when your 
Heart is the heaviest. 
I will be the "I've known you forever" feeling of a brand new love. I will be the inspiration in your Wildest Dream. And I will be the Parachute when you exit the plane.

And then you asked, and where will you be until then? I was thoughtful for a moment and then I understood. I will be the light in a perfect Sunset. You will see me in the smile of an impossibly beautiful child. The petals of an exquisite flower will remind you of me. But most of all I will be the suspicion that you are not alone, the memory that you are loved, and the joy of every triumph.

And you will instantly Know that... I promised to be here on This Day, in This Hour, and at this Moment to Remind you of Who You Really Are.

Liz Larson
transformoneidea@gmail.com

Life Design Strategist

NLP Master Practitioner